Pragmatic Compendium

inspiring the pragmatic practice of intimacy with Christ

If you want to know what ferocious love sounds like, pick on my daughter.

PinkGirl has had a very tough week. To make a 6 month story short, she was bullied to a breaking point. Two weeping meltdowns of resigned hopelessness in two days, and I’m not exaggerating.

This afternoon, she brought a friend home with her and they were lounging on a blanket, on the banks of the pond behind our house. It was peaceful and lazy and I could hear her laughter from my rocking chair on the back porch.

and then.

3 teenage girls came into the clearing and one immediately yelled at PinkGirl and her friend: “Get lost! I HATE children!”

Immediately, with all the breath in my lungs, I yelled “THEN HIT THE ROAD!” It was instinctive. Not one intelligent thought preceded it. The words just flew out of my body.

[Let me just stop and say. WOW! What a difference a year of voice lessons makes! I didn’t even recognize the voice that came out of me. Deep. LOUD. It actually ECHOED.]

The MeanGirls couldn’t have been more stunned than if they had heard a gunshot. They stopped dead in their tracks and looked around. I was on my porch, still in my rocking chair. They had no idea where the big voice came from.

But.

They turned and walked away from PinkGirl and her friend. Silently.

So be forewarned. I have zero tolerance for ANYone being mean to PinkGirl right now. She has no resilience and she needs a few days or weeks to build it back up.

Don’t make me use my big voice.

January 28, 2011 Posted by | family, pragmatic parenting | , , , | 5 Comments

ode to a passive aggressive friend

“My Passive Aggressive Friend’s Thinly Veiled Hostility Makes Me Nervous”

I dedicate this song to my beautiful daughter, PinkGirl as I pray for her relationship with a relentless passive aggressive 4th grader.

(in the words of Larry the cable guy, “Lord, I apologize for that, and be with the starving pygmies down in New Guinea.)


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January 28, 2011 Posted by | laugh!, music, poor me some whine, youtube | , , | 1 Comment

four minutes with God: Proverbs 27:17

a Quote:
“We all need someone in our lives at times to coach us to greater and greater levels of excellence in our chosen areas of pursuit.”

“Come to the edge, He said. They said, We are afraid. Come to the edge, He said. They came. He pushed them . . . and they flew.” Guillaume Apollinaire

(from The Aladdin Factor by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen)

my Prayer:
Lord, please lead me to anyone who can honestly and objectively guide me to greater levels of excellence in my pursuits to nurture my family, serve in ministry and achieve competence in my career. Please help me to discern and listen to the voices that come from you and to discard the lies Satan tries to tell me in an effort to throw me off your path for my life. If you would strike Satan mute, that would be perfect, Lord. (sigh) But I know that’s not how you work, so please bless me with discernment.

Thank you for the determination to work harder when I come face to face with the reality that I’m not as good at something as I think I am. Please Lord, help me to acknowledge my strengths and to remember that when I discount them, I discount your blessings in my life. Please help me to be satisfied with my work when I do well, instead of constantly critiquing myself.

the Word:
As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
Proverbts 27:17 (NIV)

the lyric.
“But the voice of truth tells me a different story. The voice of truth says, ‘Do not be afraid!’ The voice of truth says, ‘This is for My glory.’ Out of all the voices calling out to me, I will choose to listen and believe the voice of truth.”
Voice of Truth (youtube link) by Casting Crowns (amazon link)


This was dual published on my Pragmatic Communion blog.

January 27, 2011 Posted by | christian living, devotions, four minutes with God, music, pragmatic communion, prayer, youtube | , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

crazy woman singing in the van singing what? “Salvation is HERE”

This is what I’ll be singing in the van this week . . .


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January 24, 2011 Posted by | christian living, music, pragmatic communion, praise team music, youtube | , , , , | 2 Comments

crazy woman singing in the van singing what? “mighty to save”

Love this version of Mighty to Save. . .


For more beautiful music, check out Then Sings My Soul Saturday every Saturday hosted by Amy at Signs, Miracles and Wonders.

January 22, 2011 Posted by | christian living, music, pragmatic communion, praise team music, youtube | , , , | 2 Comments

“the man is the head, but the woman is the neck, and she can turn the head any way she wants.”

I love this scene from My Big Fat Greek Wedding. Isn’t is cute how men think they’re in charge?

Now ladies, wield this power responsibly. Don’t take advantage.


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January 22, 2011 Posted by | laugh!, till death, women, youtube | , , , , , | 3 Comments

this is new. part 1.

Last week, as FavoriteSon and I were preparing to go to to a rehearsal before an evening church service, he said: “Mom. Get something to eat. I know you’re not hungry, but you don’t get hungry, so you need to eat something before you get a headache.”

He knows me.

I don’t get hungry these days. And it’s not that I don’t eat and then become ravenous and overeat later. I just don’t get hungry.

this is new.

Food used to be a driving force in my life. In the mornings I would wonder if I had the time or money to run through a McDonalds drive-thru for breakfast. Pancakes? A stack of three at least. Butter AND syrup. Chocolate chip pancakes? make it four. Eggs? They came with bacon, cheese grits and toast with butter. Bagels had two halves and the cream cheese was slathered. Then I would spend the morning thinking about what I would have for lunch. Standard drive through was McDonalds Quarter Pounder with Cheese, Fries and a Diet Coke – supersized or three tacos, nachos supreme and a burrito supreme from Taco Bell. Dinner was always big and I would eat out every chance I could get, whether I could afford it or not. Nachos. Burgers. Fried anything. Take home boxes? Never asked for one. Never needed one.

Food was my favorite hobby, a source of entertainment, a way to show love . . . a coping strategy.

now? not so much.

Now, my life is so full that I have to remind myself to eat. And when I say “full” I don’t mean busy. I don’t just fill my discretionary time with activity, I fill that time doing things I LOVE – and it doesn’t leave room for an eating hobby. Now, I set alarms on my phone and computer to prompt me to stop what I’m doing and eat lunch and snacks. Now, in my efforts to keep my metabolism somewhat stable, I’m trying to eat something every 3 hours or so, I carry snacks in my purse and my van.

and sometimes, my son reminds me to eat.

How did I get to this place? I have my theories, so check back for “this is new. part 2.”

January 17, 2011 Posted by | fight the frump, food, health, intentional living | , , , | 1 Comment

Lord, fill me with your Holy Spirt. or the spirit of a large black woman.

YESTERDAY, I agreed to sing this song with someone TONIGHT at a Bethune-Cookman Gospel Choir concert at First United Methodist Church of Oviedo. My first attempt at singing black gospel, with less than 24 hours to prepare.

What was I THINKING?

I’m asking myself, “Do I have enough soul to pull this off?”

Lord, as I prepare to sing black gospel for the first time tonight, I pray that you will fill me with your Holy Spirit. Or the spirit of a large black woman. or both. you know best. Amen.

You know, it’s just like exercise, if I’m going to do it, I’m going to do it 100%. If I’m THERE, I’m going to give it all I’ve got.

Lord, help me!

UPDATE: That was some SERIOUS fun! However, I have once again been reminded that I am incapable of singing and clapping at the same time. I chose to sing and let everyone else clap. It’s okay that I can’t sing and clap at the same time, I didn’t even try. It wouldn’t have turned out well. Besides, I’m not going to contaminate the one intuitive thing I do (sing praise songs) by forcing choreography just because it’s expected by other people. I’m intentional about SO many things in my life, I NEED to let go when I sing. Last night, I sang to and for the Lord and found myself raising my hands – intuitively. I pray that He found my offering beautiful.


For more beautiful music, check out Then Sings My Soul Saturday every Saturday hosted by Amy at Signs, Miracles and Wonders.

This was dual published on my Pragmatic Communion blog.

January 14, 2011 Posted by | christian living, laugh!, music, prayer, youtube | , , , , , | 4 Comments

I can walk miles taking baby steps.

We kept at it, repairing and rebuilding the wall. The whole wall was soon joined together and halfway to its intended height because the people had a heart for the work.” Nehemiah 4:6

I’m going to put a stone on the wall God is asking me to help build today. He hasn’t told me where to put it yet, but he will. He’s given me a heart for the work.

I love micro-actions. I can walk miles taking baby steps in the same amount of time it takes me to do nothing because I think I need a big block of time (and money) walk even one mile.

January 12, 2011 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

overwhelmed. humbled. thankful. satisfied.

I’ve sung 4 times in the last 4 days. Twice live, twice in a recording studio. I’m completely overwhelmed and humbled as I contemplate these experiences. I am very aware that these opportunities are blessings and I don’t for a moment take them for granted.

And I’m in a very, very strange and unfamiliar place. I am satisfied with my work.

God is good. All the time.

January 10, 2011 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

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