I’ve been reading Grace Based Parenting by Dr. Tim Kimmel. Chapter 7, The Freedom to Be Different really resonated with me. Check out my latest post over at Pragmatic Communion. It’s about giving my daughter the “freedom to be different.”
Here’s a bit of Dr. Kimmel to ponder:
“The primary way to give our children grace is to offer it in place of our selfish preferences. They receive grace when we choose not to commit sins against their heart when our human nature would suggest that it would be okay to do so. In fact, the greatest grace that children receive is when we can even see the sins we are inclined to commit against their hearts followed by our willingness to go against our selfish urges. So much grace is stolen in the heat of the moment by our selfishness. Kids want things, need things, say things or do things that either bother us, embarrass us, or hurt us. But sometimes the reason we are hurt is because we might be exercising immaturity, insecurity or indifference. We take things that are huge to children and trivialize them, or we take small issues and magnify them out of proportion.”
“If you have a different child and remind her about the sacrifice you’ve made to accommodate her quirks, it is not in a context of grace.”
Love it, if only all new parents understood that their children only came from them, and were not of them:)
I just finished this book a few months ago and I loved it! Such a great book and I am so glad I read it. I highly recommend it to any parent.=)
Okay, I’m ordering this book. I’m afraid I’ve been guilty of reminding my child with different needs that we’ve made accomodations for him. Parenting is so hard!