"so, have you spoken to them about their behavior?" That was the question I was asked after publishing my post entitled "you see the big hat too . . . right?" (For those who don't have time to read that post, here's the twitter version: "passive-aggressive narcissist. boundaries, distance & prayer. attempted normal relationship. failed. … Continue reading Jesus said turn the other cheek. He didn’t say I had to stand within smack radius.
Ever try to describe the behavior of a passive-aggressive person to someone else? Inevitably, you come off sounding petty. And a little crazy. There's disbelief: "No way. That doesn't seem like them." There's doubt: "Are you sure? Maybe you misunderstood." There's advice: "You should talk to them about it. They probably have no idea you … Continue reading you see the big hat too . . . right?
I haven't exactly been sad. But I'll admit. For the last few weeks, I've been discouraged. I found myself in the middle of a new work group dynamic and the results have been . . . discouraging. Actually, it's an old dynamic that I allowed to resurface. I should have known better. I can't be … Continue reading I’m going to stop being discouraged and be awesome instead. True Story.
Warning: Sometimes, emotional bullies wear puppy suits. wounded puppy suits. And when you pay attention to them, the whimpering doesn't get softer, it gets louder. and louder and louder... They require more and more of your time and attention. You can't make them happy. You aren't the reason they're UNhappy. But if you don't give … Continue reading step away from the puppy.
I'm not one to avoid conflict. I've found that, much too often, constant unanimous agreement results in substandard ideas and dispassionate forward motion. Confrontation doesn't scare me. I don't avoid conflict because I'm afraid of the person I need to confront or the possible repercussions of the confrontation. That said, there are some situations in … Continue reading desensitized.
There’s a certain person in my daughter’s life, who if she allows it, erodes her joy. I’ll call her TheBully. Without getting into detail, I'll just say that her behavior toward PinkGirl is often passive-aggressive. Every day after school, PinkGirl tells me what TheBully did that day. And every day, PinkGirl and I talk about … Continue reading Dear PinkGirl: don’t copy me.
I read, therefore I quote. Today's quotes are taken from The Mom Factor by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, and On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. I've been writing about my relationship with my mom and her current health issues and I want to explain where I am with all this. Stage … Continue reading “. . . therefore I quote” Kubler-Ross, Cloud & Townsend
My mom didn't go into the rehab center. She's in the hospital instead. She's taking diuretics intravenously (80 mg Lasix) and has a catheter. Trying to get that 20 plus pounds of water off. They are trying to figure out the pulmonary hypertension and the heart rate of 120. I just spoke with her and … Continue reading conversations with my mother . . . pie and gum
My mom didn't go into the rehab facility yesterday, something about being evaluated and the doctor needing to order it . . . anyway, my mom's friend, MrJAK called to update me today. He took her to the emergency room to force the issue. Currently she is in the ER, waiting for someone to authorize … Continue reading welcome to my world, MrJAK