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step outside your comfort zone. - Some of you know I serve as a career coach. Just last week I found myself in a Panera Bread working with one of my current students on their resume. This particular location is extremely thin on power outlets, so while working on battery power, we pretty much stalked every person at every table near…
Bill Nye. Regular Guy. - Confession. Every time I read or hear something Bill Nye says, I have an instant flashback to this 1990s video of him wearing jogging shorts and a cape, hands on hips, valiantly announcing: “This looks like a job for SPEED WALKER!!!” (You’ll have to click over to youtube to watch. Embedding is disabled.) And then…
the 1% rule. a minority with too much free time? or representative of the 99%? - Something has bothered me for a while. When someone says that a certain group of people “thinks” this or “says” that, where does the opinion of that group come from? If it’s true that only 1% of people are “vocal” on the internet, (via posts, tweets, comments or blogs) does that really tell us what…
the most divisive word of all: “THEY” - After the events of the last few days, my resilience is worn-down. I can’t read another post or comment by an armchair pundit containing divisive broadcasted attacks against the nameless, faceless “THEY.” Arrogant sarcastic rants that begin with: “I love it when…” or “Don’t you just love it when…” or “Isn’t it funny, how…” when…
a lesson in humility. and a reminder. - Dr. Doofenshmirtz might call the first part of this post my “backstory.” ~ I’m a firstborn and an ISTP (67%) / ISTJ (33%) who’s worked with IT personnel (mostly guys) for decades. My instinctive approach is always content over context. Logic over feelings. I’d say that about 90% of the time, I have a male…
say what you mean. don’t be mean when you say it. - I cut waaay back on facebook over the last few months. Derisive sarcasm and hate were saturating my news feed, weighing and wearing me down. As I tentatively become more active again, one of my new facebook practices is to select “I don’t want to see this” whenever I read a post declaring that something…
negativity. flip it or zip it. - Note to Self: Every time you began to say something negative, stop. and consider two other options: flip it or zip it. ‪#‎edify‬ Complaining and constructive criticism are two different things. and one of them is a counter-productive waste of time.
Be salt and light. Matthew 5:13-16 seasoned with salt. - If you profess Christianity, please be careful in your discussions about controversial issues today. Please don’t be arrogant. You’re never going to change someone’s mind when you’re words are laced with arrogance or contempt. What’s your goal? You don’t have to try and get someone to agree with your point, but you can introduce doubt…
say what you mean, but don’t be mean when you say it. - I’ve been saying that for years. To my kids, to students and to myself, whenever the situation calls for it. It’s one of my idioms. This afternoon, I read an article about a controversial subject in which the writer gave the distinct impression that anyone who doesn’t agree with them is ignorant. Not ignorant in…
sarcasm: religious and political poison. - Reading too much on the internet today and keep thinking one thing: Sarcasm is an ineffective persuasive technique. It’s condescending, arrogant, divisive and shuts down dialog. It’s too often used by people in a manner to indicate that an issue is simple and anyone who doesn’t see the simplicity and logic of their side of…
the positive impact of negative feedback. - I’ve known for a very long time that I’m different. Not “better” different. Because, really, “better” is relative. Better than what? The comparisons are limitless. and I’m thinking at least 50% of them wouldn’t be pretty. “Different” can imply too much trouble. too much work. weird. tiresome. exasperating. I don’t deny those adjectives. They’re not…

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