a lesson in humility. and a reminder.

Dr. Doofenshmirtz might call the first part of this post my "backstory." ~ I'm a firstborn and an ISTP (67%) / ISTJ (33%) who's worked with IT personnel (mostly guys) for decades. My instinctive approach is always content over context. Logic over feelings. I'd say that about 90% of the time, I have a male … Continue reading a lesson in humility. and a reminder.

say what you mean, but don’t be mean when you say it.

I've been saying that for years. To my kids, to students and to myself, whenever the situation calls for it. It's one of my idioms. This afternoon, I read an article about a controversial subject in which the writer gave the distinct impression that anyone who doesn't agree with them is ignorant. Not ignorant in … Continue reading say what you mean, but don’t be mean when you say it.

Jesus said turn the other cheek. He didn’t say I had to stand within smack radius.

"so, have you spoken to them about their behavior?" That was the question I was asked after publishing my post entitled "you see the big hat too . . . right?" (For those who don't have time to read that post, here's the twitter version: "passive-aggressive narcissist. boundaries, distance & prayer. attempted normal relationship. failed. … Continue reading Jesus said turn the other cheek. He didn’t say I had to stand within smack radius.

you see the big hat too . . . right?

Ever try to describe the behavior of a passive-aggressive person to someone else? Inevitably, you come off sounding petty. And a little crazy. There's disbelief: "No way. That doesn't seem like them." There's doubt: "Are you sure? Maybe you misunderstood." There's advice: "You should talk to them about it. They probably have no idea you … Continue reading you see the big hat too . . . right?